I'm so lonely, it must be someone else's fault
Conclusion is that I must stop talking to guys on reddit.
This year I'm going to avoid subreddits for making friends/finding relationships because the people there are extremely odd.
There are some people who are normal and just don't have a circle of people to confide in. That's fine.
But the other half of people are just...professional victims.
One of my past "relationships" was like this. "everyone else is toxic and hates me" but he said I'm an exception.
The only reason I'm an "exception" was because I kept forgiving him for lying to me or sending unsolicited pics of his penis or calling me names or getting mad at me for being busy. I kept forgiving him because he said he was lonely :/
but it must be society's fault that this person is lonely.
I don't get it. why do you blame everyone else for your lack of meaningful relationships? I couldn't blame anyone but myself. I do blame myself; i hate leaving the house lmao. If I went outside I'd have more friends.
Back in 2024(?) I went on a dating app/site that was popular with chronically online lonely nerds (i learned afterwards that "nerd" now just means German history enthusiast). It was partially okay, many weirdos who try to be edgy. The site was called Duolicious and it later came out to be a neo-Nazi, 4channer magnet. My fucking bad, i didn't know.
Even with interactions like these, I still blame myself. Maybe i should have replied faster? maybe I should have worded it differently? maybe i should have known a site like that wouldn't welcome me?
It's similar on reddit. Messaging people on that site usually ends in sexual advances, microaggressions, or pushing me to respond every second of the day. These same people blame everyone else for them being lonely. I assure you Mason on Duolicious still has no bitches.
Some people reading this may think I'm too nice to these people. I am. but I hate to react appropriately because I always feel like I will be seen as "angry", which is a negative stereotype. I just block them afterwards but that doesn't undo the interaction. I just need to sit still and get off reddit.
It's easy for me to be hateful towards the demographic of those people; White and Indian guys in their 20's. But I'm over age 10 so I'm old enough to understand that a few does not represent all. See how easy that is? how can i hate the groups who invented Blue Jeans and Paratha Masala respectively? Both staples in my life. :)
I don't really have a physical type, so I just find people based off of my interests. unfortunately my interest groups are dominated by fucking losers who larp as nerds.